Art

Here's how to tell your friend their art honestly isn't good — without destroying them or the friendship. The key is balancing truth with kindness, and focusing on your role as a friend, not as a brutal critic.

### Basic Rules Before You Open Your Mouth

1. **Ask yourself why you need to say it.**  

   If they're just posting for fun and not asking for feedback — maybe shut up. Unsolicited "your art sucks" is almost never helpful.

2. **Only give harsh feedback if they've explicitly asked for it.**  

   If they say "Be honest, no sugarcoating," then you have permission. Otherwise, default to gentle.

3. **Never attack their worth or potential.**  

   Bad art ≠ bad person ≠ permanently bad artist.

### Actual Ways to Say It (pick one based on your friendship dynamic)

#### The Soft But Real Version (most common situation)

"Hey, I care about you and I wanna be honest because you've asked for real feedback. Right now the pieces you're showing aren't hitting for me yet — the anatomy/proportions/color choices/composition feel off and it's hard for me to connect with them. I can see you're putting in effort though, and I know you're still developing. What are you trying to improve right now?"

#### The Direct But Encouraging Version (if they specifically want no BS)

"Alright, since you asked for brutal honesty: no, it's not good yet. The technical stuff (anatomy, perspective, values, etc.) has some major issues that are holding it back from looking professional or even competent at this stage. But that's completely normal — almost every artist starts here. If you actually want to get good, you have to study fundamentals like crazy and be willing to hear this kind of thing a lot. Are you ready for that grind?"

#### The "Sandwich" Classic (if you're scared of confrontation)

"I love that you're so passionate and posting consistently — that drive is huge. Right now though, the work itself is still pretty rough and isn't at a level that's going to get the reaction you probably want. I think if you focused hard on [specific thing: anatomy / color theory / etc.] for the next few months you'd see a massive jump."

#### The Deflection (if you really don't want to say it sucks)

"I'm not the best person to judge this — my taste is super narrow. Have you tried posting it in [art subreddits / Discord groups / etc.] and asking for critique there? People who draw the same stuff will give you way better feedback than I can."

### Things You Should NEVER Say

- "You just don't have talent."

- "I don't know art but even I can tell this is bad."

- "My 8-year-old cousin draws better."

- Anything that sounds like you're laughing at them.

Final tip: Offer to help if you actually can. Send them a tutorial, a book (Loomis, Proko, etc.), or even draw over their piece showing what you mean. That turns "your art sucks" into "I believe you can do better and here's proof." Most people can handle hard truth when it comes with a path forward.

Henry McClure  
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